Happy Relaxed Engaged: Implementing HRE In Therapy
Happy, relaxed, engaged. Something we all want to be. This is an approach created by Dr.
Greg Hanley, also called the “My Way” approach. The Hopebridge Autism Therapy Center says
we need to “get to a place where the child is most comfortable and prepared to learn.” (Bogart,
2022) Most people could agree that we are more likely to retain information if we are relaxed
and happy. Think back to school: If the room was too cold or too hot, it was hard to focus. The
same is true for engagement. The more you engage with someone, the better rapport you
have.
Going back to the school example, you remember what you learned with the fun and interactive
teachers more than the ones that droned on and on. This method by Dr. Hanley allows the child
to get what they want, then slowly teaching tolerance; showing them they don’t always get their
way.
There are some ways we go about keeping the children happy, relaxed, and engaged.
Teach the child to say, “I want it my way”. By doing this they have a sense of control over the
situation. This is like “pairing” at Daytastic. We start off by letting the child have control over
the whole session. We are gaining their trust, keeping them happy, relaxed, and engaged. Fade
out “I want it my way” and replace it with “excuse me”. Social skills are a very important part of
life. Saying “excuse me” when asking for something is a social norm we practice. After fading
out all the prompts, it is time to start telling the child “No”. This shows them that sometimes we
don’t always get our way (Trauma-Informed ABA: The “My Way” Approach, n.d.)
Life has a great way of not giving us all what we want, when we want it. The “My Way”
approach can help soften that reality for some children. We use this method because it helps us
build a strong relationship with the child. We started off by meeting any need the child might
have, which makes them happy. When you are happy you are usually relaxed as well.
Engagement is a huge component in this. We are not keeping the child from having their way at
all. This process has helped gain their trust with the caretaker and are more likely to accept no.
Resources:
Bogart, L. (2022, October 24). What is HRE Within Applied Behavior Analysis? Hopebridge
Explains How “Happy, Relaxed, Engaged” Drives Autism Therapy. Hopebridge Autism
Therapy Center. https://www.hopebridge.com/happy-relaxed-engaged-children-in-aba-
therapy/
Trauma-Informed ABA: The “My Way” Approach. (n.d.). We Offer ABA Therapy in Miami.
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